“If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.”
AA Chapter 5
RARELY HAVE we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty.
Rigorous honesty is honesty that can be strict, severe and can even cruel. Rigorous honesty makes life difficult, challenging or uncomfortable.
Principles are natural laws that govern interactions with people and can be verified.
Elbert Hubbard states “A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.”
Brad Blanton in his book Radical Honesty says there are three levels to telling the truth. He says telling the truth kills false roles, images, interpretations and lies. He says that by telling the truth we still have roles to play in life, but we are no longer trapped by them. In doing this the person is in charge and not the role.
Level one is: Revealing the Facts
Revealing the facts is the start and it does not end there. Some think this is the hard part, however, it is the first step to liberation. We tell the facts that we have withheld and we then no longer need to be terrified of being found out. We then get back that energy that we were using to keep the secrets covered up.
Level two: Honesty about current thoughts and feelings
Now we start to admit how we feel, when we feel it, speaking your secret judgments of others out loud, and constantly revealing your own petty and condescending ways.
What are your thoughts on being rigorously honest? Have you shared the facts, have you achieved the ability to state your current thoughts and feelings as they arise? Do you want permanent change and to know a new freedom?